Your Greatest Weakness is Your Strength

One thing I love about the Bible is the honesty in which it displays historic figures. No one’s flaws are hidden. Everyone’s life is pretty much laid bare — the good and the bad. And in certain places, the writer shares his own weaknessflaws, like the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians.

“I was with you in weakness, in fear, and in much trembling. And my speech and my preaching were not with persuasive words of human wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power, that your faith should not be in the wisdom of men but in the power of God.” 1 Cor. 3-5

Paul admitted he was in weakness, fear, and much trembling when it came to speaking to the church of Corinth. Essentially, Paul feared public speaking. There are other instances in his letters where he admitted he wasn’t an eloquent orator. It’s odd because I always perceived Paul as a great theologian and preacher who commanded attention and respect when he spoke, but that wasn’t the case.

Public speaking ranks as one of the greatest fears for people. Most of us have suffered from it to some extent, which makes us much like Paul in that sense. Yet God knew Paul was weak in this area and He still called him to preach the Gospel to the Gentiles, an assignment that regularly put him in front of complete strangers to share a radical message none of them had heard before. Way to set up a guy for failure, God.

But God did this regularly, on purpose. Think back to Moses. He tried to explain to God that he couldn’t speak for Him to Pharaoh because he stuttered. It’s not like God was like: “Oh, my bad, I forgot you stuttered, let me find someone else.” He knew speaking was Moses’ weakness and He called him anyway.

Today, we do so much to hide our weaknesses. We focus on what we’re good at and pursue interests in those areas and hone skills pertaining to our strengths. We are caught up in a culture that only displays its best — we retake photos on our phones until we have our best-looking selfie; we search through pics to use our best-looking one as our profile image; we use Instagram to make our sucky photos look professional, all in an attempt to display an image of strength, beauty, and competence to the world. But none of it is true.

I admit, only God and I know my weaknesses. I’m the king of playing it cool, faking it til I make it, and if need be, just plain frontin’. But God, throughout history, takes the opposite approach with us. He doesn’t want any of those weaknesses, blemishes, fears, or things that make us tremble hidden. He calls us into those areas. He pushes us into those areas. He uses us in those areas.

Why?

Paul said it in his letter to the Corinthians: So that anything we accomplish and any life we impact won’t be because of our wisdom or skill, but solely by the power of the Spirit so our faith (and subsequently others’ as well) will be in the power of God, not in our own ability.

Have you been concealing or shying away from a weak area in your life God is nudging you toward? Have you shut your ears to what He’s been saying because of fear? Have you been worrying about what others will think? Fearing failure? God knows what He’s doing. He’s calling you there for a reason — to display His power and glory.

Like Paul, embrace your weakness. It’s the only way to see what the power of the Spirit can do in your life.

 

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Living in Faith Every Day

The following is an excerpt from the forthcoming book “The Past is in the Past So Let It Pass: For Women” by Nadia Atkinson. It’s a compilation of testimonies by 16 women about their journeys in finding Christ.  

“…For I will surely deliver you, and you shall not fall by the sword; but your life shall be as a prize to you, because you have put your trust in Me,” says the LORD.’ ”

Jeremiah 39:18 NKJV

Tell me what was your life like before Christ? nadia's book

Before Christ, I lived a life with no direction. I believed that the only person that guided my life was me and those around me. I hung around people who lived a negative lifestyle, and even had those people around my child. I lived a promiscuous and dangerous lifestyle, and at the time, it was fun. I didn’t do drugs, but I allowed myself to be around them and allowed them in my home. I was 19 years old with my own apartment thinking I could do whatever I wanted, never thinking about consequences, or the danger I was putting my daughter in.

What drew you to Christ?

There had come a time when I had hit rock bottom. I was about to be evicted from my home and I needed help and none of the so-called friends that I had around me every day could help me, nor could any of my family members. Everyone had an excuse as to why they couldn’t help me. It was then that I realized that I could only depend on Christ. I don’t remember exactly how it was resolved, but it was from then on I decided I would never put my faith in man again.

What made you decide, the day you were saved, that that was the day to dedicate your life to God?

I became saved when I was young. I attended church on a regular basis due to my mother and stepfather making it a requirement. I said the words and I prayed the prayer, but I never really took it seriously. In my mid-twenties, I was dating a gangbanger who I thought was a great guy but had the bad boy thing going for him that I loved. I never thought that I would ever see that bad boy side of him. One day I decided I was going to check his voicemail on his cell phone, and I did. It was easy because men never use passwords that can’t be guessed. Well I told him I did, and I don’t know what he thought I heard, but there was something on there that he didn’t want me to hear. I confronted him about a girl’s message that was on there, but he didn’t care about her message, he was just angry that I checked his messages. He threatened to kill me, and knowing that he was capable of doing just that, I was scared. He knew where I lived with my daughter and he knew where my family lived. I left my home for about a week. I was staying at my best friend’s house who just so happened to live across the street from a church.

The following Sunday I attended one of the services at that church. I prayed and I cried like I had never prayed and cried before. I promised God that I would change my life if my life was spared in this situation. I dedicated my life to Christ that day and I meant it with my whole heart.  When the service was over, I felt a weight lifted off me, but I wasn’t going home just yet. I went back to my friend’s house and she told me that while I was gone a lady knocked on her door to get help because she was having car trouble. Now my friend lived in an apartment complex, so the lady could have knocked on 10 others doors that were around my friend’s house. My friend welcomed the lady in to make a phone call. Before the lady left, she told my friend I don’t know what’s going on, but know everything is going to be fine, and then she left. Till this day, my friend has never seen the lady ever again. When she told me what happened, I felt like it was confirmation from God that He heard my prayer and my cries. I went home that night and never worried about the situation again.

If you could save someone by telling them one thing God has done for you in your life, what would it be?

God has spared my life in many ways. There are so many things that could have happened in my life due to the lifestyle I was living such as diseases, homelessness, incarceration, and the list goes on. I am disease free, never have been without a roof over my head, and never been incarcerated. Only by the grace of God was I spared, so I take every chance I get to tell someone to go to God and He will see you through.

 

Nadia is a small business owner in NJ who is God-fearing, trustworthy, and a student of the Word of God. She loves reading, writing, praise and worship, food, the beach, learning about our universe, spending time with family, giving advice, and being in love. You can order her book here.

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There’s No Fear in Love

By Kevin Howellno fear in love

Fear has been a common thread in my writing lately. It’s not been on purpose, it’s just what comes out when I sit down in front of the computer.

I guess that says something about what’s deep inside. It’s something my soul is trying to convey to myself and to you. We don’t have time for fear.

No time to dwell on it.

No energy to waste fighting it.

We all know fear can holds us back from doing great things in life. And, what we fear most points to our greatest dreams and desires.

Our focus should be love. Love may not seem as the proper way to combat all your fears, but it can dissolve most.

When we’re focused on love, and living in love, we don’t give thought to fears. We don’t hesitate to do what our soul is stirring us to do. Whether it’s inviting a friend to church, making time for your irritable co-worker, starting a business, buying a house, moving out of the state or country, or simply saying “no” when you always say “yes.”

We fear these things because of our insecurity. It’s not necessarily because the tasks are too great, it’s because our faith is too small.

I don’t mean our belief has to be great in order to overcome fears. Jesus said faith the size of a mustard seed can accomplish great things. The faith I’m talking about has more to do with trust. The more trust we have in someone, the more secure we are around him or her.

I realized most of my fears were rooted in insecurity. They were internal. I was afraid to do things because I was afraid to fail and fall flat on my face, so in order to save face, I stayed safe.

But the more secure I became in God’s love, the less I thought about failure. The less I cared about failure. I felt free. Doubts and concerns became minimal.

It’s weird, but something I would consider solely spiritual or theological was so practical, it permeated my entire life.

The Bible says love covers a multitude of sins. It covers a multitude of fears as well. 

Love provides security, ensuring that no matter what you venture to do, someone trustworthy is always there. Love doesn’t minimize the risk associated with fear; it just changes the perspective of it. When we live within God’s love, we see everything through the lens of His loving security.

What people think no longer matters. Our weaknesses no longer matter. Who’s with us and for us means everything.

“There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear.” 1 John 4:18

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Understanding Grace

By Kevin Howell

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As a young Christian, I struggled with sin. I understood it was part of the process of growing and maturing in God, and though I was no longer a sinner, I would still have to deal with sin for the rest of my life. In fact, I was told that in some way, every day, we all sin. So each night, before I went to bed, I reflected on my day to figure out how and when I sinned, because for sure, I did at some point.

I was sin-conscious, and more than bad habits, human depravity, my own lust, or temptations in the world, that’s why I sinned. Because sin and repentance was on my mind, daily.

There’s a theory in sports, whether shooting a basketball or a pistol, bowling, throwing a baseball or football, that whatever you focus on, that’s where the ball will go. Likewise, when my mind was focused on sin, avoiding sin, and repenting of sin, sin remained in my consciousness. So in spite of efforts to avoid it, I’d always come back to the same sins. Why? Because I was focused on them. I was trying to overcome sin by denying my flesh and building my spirit, based on principles we hear within Christian culture. However, I’ve found that to be ineffective and unbiblical.

I don’t have to try to overcome sin because sin has already been overcome.

My efforts were futile trying to win a battle I was incapable of winning. That’s why Jesus fought it for us already. Grace has taught me to accept the finished work of Christ. Do I still sin? Of course. But I’m no longer looking for it. I don’t try to figure out if and how I sinned every day. The Spirit of God will bring conviction to an area I need to address. I decided to live in grace instead of live in fear of sin.

Grace has become a controversial topic lately. As some people are leery of a hyper-grace message that is accepting of sin. But a true understanding of grace motivates us to live righteously.

“Amazing Grace,” the classic hymn by John Newton, has a verse that illustrates the power of grace:

“T’was grace that taught my heart to fear,

and grace my fears relieved”

Grace teaches us the fear and reverence of God. It gives us understanding of His power, sovereignty, authority, and dominion. It reminds me that I exist, breath, and am not consumed because of grace. Yet at the same time, that same grace relieves me of the fear of sin and its consequences. I don’t have to fear judgment; I don’t have to constantly repent to be accepted. Grace has taken away those fears.

I no longer struggle with sin. Not because I’m perfect, or because I don’t care about how I live. I’ve taken my focus off the negative and put it on the positive. That’s why I’m moving toward grace.

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How Fear Helps Us Dream

By Kevin Howell

Discovery Channel

Discovery Channel

This past Sunday night was a slow TV night. The NBA Finals were over, the Sunday Night baseball game on ESPN was in a rain delay so, unless you’re into Lifetime or Oprah’s OWN network, there wasn’t much to watch.

But lo and behold, the Discovery Channel came through with a can’t-miss/can’t-bear-to-watch event — Skywire.  Daredevil tight-rope walker Nik Wallenda was attempting to walk on a tight wire across the Grand Canyon. Yes, you read that right. And he was doing it without a harness or safety net… on live TV. I wasn’t sure how the FCC would approve the live airing of a man plummeting 1,500 feet to his death at the bottom of the canyon.

The walk was a quarter of a mile long and, yes, he made it. Throughout the walk, Wallenda, who had a mic on, was praying to Jesus — constantly. I’m no theologian and I don’t judge others’ relationships with God, but there has to be better ways to bring glory to God. Sure, he was exalting Jesus on national television, but at the same time scaring the hell out of everyone else. Anyway….

Wallenda is a pro at this stuff (he did the same stunt across Niagara Falls). His family has tight-roped walked for generations. He said he dreamed of walking across the Grand Canyon since he was a teenager.

FEARS VS. DREAMS

Wallenda’s stunt helps illustrate the unique relationship between our fears and dreams. Often times these opposing factors are quite related. What we fear most points to what we desire most. If you are afraid of being alone, your dream probably has something to do with family or community. If you are afraid of failing, you likely dream of success.

courtesy of fearsvsdreams.com

courtesy of fearsvsdreams.com

The organization To Write Love On Her Arms, which supports those struggling with self-injury, suicide and depression, started a campaign called “Fears vs. Dreams” where it asks people to write down their biggest fear and their greatest dream. The purpose is for people “to feel less alone in reading the words of others.”

One of my biggest fears is embarrassment and humiliation. Conversely, my greatest dream is to impact and encourage many lives through my words (both written and spoken). With the dream comes the risk of embarrassment, the risk of humiliation. But our greatest dreams will never come to fruition until we conquer our biggest fear.

Nik Wallenda said he doesn’t fear doing crazy stunts. He said you can decide whether you want to fear something or not. Though I wouldn’t even tight-rope walk 15 feet in the air, Wallenda chose to walk 1,500 feet high. That was his dream, and he conquered fear to do it. What’s your biggest fear? It will likely point you toward your greatest dream and let you know what you have to overcome to get it.

“Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. … the more fear we feel about a specific enterprise, the more certain we can be that that enterprise is important to us and to the growth of our soul.” –Steven Pressfield, The War of Art

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How I Got Free From Fear

By Kevin Howell

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photo by criggchef via compfight

For much of my life, I’ve dealt with fear. Fear of the dark, fear of rejection, fear of hell, fear of failure. It wasn’t just a part of my life, it was a part of my personality. It was as much a characteristic of mine as my height, skin color, and blood type.

I didn’t have an anxiety disorder, but I worried a lot. Even as I got older, and the little boy fears of the dark faded, the fear of judgment, rejection, and failure remained. Though the three seem like distinct phobias, they are actually intertwined.

Judgment

I feared judgment from God. I feared hell. I feared not living up to the standard of righteousness. I had a relationship with God, a true encounter with Him, and served in ministry. But fear drove the relationship. I spent each day trying to figure out how I sinned so I could repent. Anytime I sinned, I would spend anywhere from a couple of hours to a week wallowed in guilt and condemnation for screwing up the umpteenth time. I knew God was love, but surely I had to live worthy of that love in some way. I knew the life God expected of me, so I focused on how I wasn’t living up to the standard so I could rectify it and please Him.

Rejection

I feared rejection from people. I wanted to be accepted. I wanted to be liked, so much so that I was haunted by insecurity. I needed to make a positive impression on people — at work, at church, or just hanging out around town — so they would think highly of me. When I walked into a room, my first thought was what people thought of me and who noticed me. Was I good enough for them? Was I cool enough? Was I spiritual enough? Do they think I’m smart, attractive, intriguing? I was a prisoner to the perception of others.

Failure

I was afraid of failing, therefore, I was afraid to take risks… afraid I’d fall flat on my face and embarrass myself. So I didn’t ask the girl out, didn’t fight for the promotion, and didn’t start the business. I pretty much played it safe as much as possible, swimming in shallow waters because heading to the deep was too risky.

Love & Freedom

Freedom from these fears was a process, but it seems like it happened instantaneously. It seemed like in a moment, an epiphany caused them all to loosen their grip on my psyche. That epiphany was understanding the love of God, though it happened gradually. I heard plenty about God’s love and grace, but it never sunk in. Maybe because I couldn’t accept it — it seemed too good to be true. I had been a Christian for more than 10 years, and a true understanding of grace just began to hit me. God truly loved me, before I even accepted Him. His love is exclusive of my actions. No prerequisites required. Understanding and accepting that love freed me from all fears.

I no longer fear judgment because I know I’m loved not based on my actions, but His will. I know I still sin, but I’m no longer sin-focused; I’m grace-focused. I focus on His goodness, not my mistakes. I don’t sit and think of what I did wrong and how to rectify it; I think of how He loves me and I live and act in gratitude of it.

I no longer fear rejection because I know I’m fully accepted by God. I’m secure in my relationship with Him, so what others may think no longer matters. Finding security in my relationship with Him brought security in every other relationship. Understanding the love of God brings a new level of confidence that permeates all areas of life.

I no longer fear failure because, as author Don Miller says, “Failure is an education, not a judgment.” Love gives lenience. It allows us to take risks because it is a safety net. It reminds us failure is not final, it’s just a setback. If we fail When we fail, it doesn’t make us failures. We are still loved.

Hopefully this helps free you from fear. You may not have the specific fears I had, but His love conquers them all. It brings peace, security, and freedom. When I say I got an understanding of God’s love, realize it is a limited understanding. God’s love is way too deep, complex, and unfathomable to fully grasp. I just have grabbed hold of a portion of it, and it has changed my life.

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No Time for Fear

By Kevin HowellNo time for fear

“We’re sad, but we’re not afraid. Not before; not now.” – Bob Goff

Another tragedy has hit America. Just four months after the Newtown, Conn., shootings, and nine months after the Aurora, Colo., shooting. This time it was bombings at the Boston Marathon. This time it looks like some form of terrorism — whether international or domestic. Either way, it draws a response we have seen before:

Shock.

Sadness.

Anger.

Sympathy.

And in some cases, fear.

The latter is the reaction that the perpetrators desire. They want us to live in fear. In terror. Scared to enjoy life. They want fear to disrupt our normal routine. To disrupt our purpose.

But when I look at people who inspire me, people throughout history with the courage to stand for something, they faced death, terror and threats on the regular. They did not fear.

Jesus, King David, the Apostles, Martin Luther King Jr., Jackie Robinson, Benazir Bhutto, Aung San Suu Kyi; they did not let fear run their lives. Primarily because they had a greater purpose that was too important to abandon. But also because they were too focused to be bothered by the threats.

They were driven by noble causes. I’m sure they heard the threats and knew, in most cases, their lives were truly in danger. But they also knew ain’t nobody got time for that. They didn’t have time for fear. They couldn’t waste time in fear; they had stuff to do. They knew life is much bigger than fear.

The beautiful thing I’ve noticed in America since the 9-11 attacks is the same resiliency and sense of purpose. We have stuff to do. Lives to live. Races to run. Flights to take. We will not live in fear. We weren’t afraid before the Boston bombings, we’re not afraid now.

We can apply that same resiliency to our personal lives. Without a doubt, we face setbacks, trying situations, disappointments, stress and frustrations. But those are no reasons to fear. Those are no reasons to stand down. No reasons to give up, stop dreaming, or stop believing.

You were built to last. Built to endure. And built to overcome. In 2 Timothy 1:7, Paul writes we were “not given a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” The Spirit within us empowers us to overcome. It makes us resilient. It gives us all we need to defeat fear. Even when things catch us off-guard, we stay focused because our purpose is bigger than the fear we face.

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Five Seconds to Greatness

By Kevin Howell

“The strong feeling of doubt, right before you leap in faith, is the last attempt to stop the greatest era of your life.” – Matthew Barnett, founder of The Dream Center

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photo by padawan via creative commons

We all deal with doubts. We all experience hesitation before an action we want to take. Our greatest battles are fought within our own minds. Steven Pressfield calls it our battle with Resistance. You can call it fear or nerves. Whatever it is, it’s holding you back. It’s holding me back. It’s robbing us of life, exploration, relationships, raises, victories, joy, and greatness.

On the other side of your fears, doubts, and resistance lies more than a desire — there is a new you. The person you want to be. One who walks by faith, undeterred by circumstances. One who is stepping into greatness. Not because you do daring things. Not because you can never be intimidated or doubt again. Not because your faith never wanes. But because you made a decision to act despite the enemies in your mind. You forced yourself out your comfort zone. You’ve proved to yourself that you are capable of overcoming the internal blockade. That’s a characteristic of greatness.

Author and speaker Mel Robbins teaches that we have five seconds to act on a positive impulse before fear and resistance set in to stop us.

Five seconds.

When we have an impulse to take a leap of faith, go after what we want, or do something crazy (a good crazy that is), we have five seconds before the enemies prance into our cerebrum. Five seconds to marry impulse with action. Five seconds to step into greatness.

The Apostle Peter experienced this. As soon as Jesus, walking on water, identified Himself on the raging sea, Peter stepped out and walked on water. He acted before the five-second countdown went off. Later, He succumbed to fear when he lost focus. But his initial steps took him into the realm of greatness, an eternal testimony of faith — who else do you know who has walked on water?

Fear and doubt are familiar. You’ve dealt with them all your life. Greatness? That’s something new. It’s something untapped. It’s on the other side of fear and self-doubt. It’s the opportunity to begin a new era in your life. To live a legacy of faith, courage, and confidence. Trust God and have confidence in what He’s put in you. You have five seconds. Step into greatness.

Kevin is learning to step into greatness, one challenge at a time. It’s simple, but not easy. Connect with him via email: Kevin(at)transparencymag.com, or on twitter: @transparencymag

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If It’s Difficult, Do it

By Kevin Howell

I don’t deal with conflict well.If it's difficult, do it

It’s something I usually try to avoid. Whether it’s conflict within relationships, or the resistance I face in certain tasks or endeavors, I’m not down with it.

It’s much easier to sweep an issue under the rug than to deal with it. It’s way more appealing to stay in my comfort zone than to take a risk. If it can be ignored, than by all means, ignore it. Why rock the boat? Why disturb the peace? Why risk consequences or explore the unknown?

It’s not in our nature to face conflict or difficult situations. Cut-and-run has been in our DNA since Adam. Unfortunately, many men fall into this category. I recall attending a seminar on conflict resolution with a group of pastors a few years ago. The instructor said that there are many unresolved conflicts in churches because men tend to avoid conflict. And because most pastors are men, church issues go unresolved.

Though some of us may be able to just flip a switch and begin to face conflict, it’s not that simple. In order to consistently take on conflict, we must view it differently. We must see it as a normal part of life — a necessary process conducive to our growth and overall purpose.

I’ve resolved to no longer be a conflict-avoider. Conflict is what makes us human. I’m sure the animal kingdom has some form of conflict — run for your life or get eaten by a predator; avoid hyenas or get done in like Mufasa — but the internal conflict we experience, the psychological/emotional stress, is quite unique. It’s a part of life. It’s a part of life God designed and we should embrace.

In his book A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, Don Miller explains that the point of life is character development. And character development can’t happen unless we face conflict. “The character has to jump into the story, into the discomfort and the fear, otherwise the story will never happen,” Miller wrote.

Nothing happens in our life unless we face conflict. In fact, we aren’t really living unless we face conflict. It’s difficult, but we were designed to face difficult things. It’s messy, but we’re designed to clean up messes. We were dropped on this earth, for a finite period of time, to do something: to fix problems, to try new things, to help others, to create stuff, to discover, to try and fail until we get it right. That’s life. It’s maddening yet appealing. It’s scary yet exhilarating. It’s ugly, yet beautiful.

Facing conflict makes us come alive.

My goal is to simply do difficult things. If I sense fear, I’m walking toward it. If it feels awkward to say, I’m going to say it. If it will bring discomfort to a comfortable situation, let’s shake it up baby. That’s why we’re here after all.

In between where we are in life and where we want to be in life is conflict and resistance. Getting what we want is simple…it’s just not easy. It takes going against our nature, our emotions, and our psyche to do what we know we must do. We must move forward despite the nerves, press on despite that feeling in the pit of our stomach, face off with the fear that has held us back.

Embrace conflict. It’s the unpleasant instrument God has chosen to help you grow. If it’s difficult, do it. It will be worth it.

 

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No Regrets

By Kevin Howell

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photo by Andre Delhaye via compfight

I want to live with no regrets.

That’s one of my themes this year (I have like 20, trying narrow the list down a bit).

“No regrets” doesn’t mean I want to live mistake-free. Mistakes are inevitable. And they’re not all regrettable. If viewed properly, they are learning experiences. (Ironically, the biggest mistake is being afraid to make mistakes, but that’s a different article).

Regrets are those things I imagine I’ll look back at 20 years from now, or even a year from now, wishing I had done. As a friend of mine mentioned in a text, “You will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did.”

So in a way, I’m trying to be preemptive, imagining myself a year from now, looking back on how I spent my time. With each day, each decision, each opportunity, I wonder if my older self would regret my actions or inaction. It’s sort of like using hindsight as foresight — living a Back to the Future flick in your head.

This concept helps level the playing field in my mind games. Fear is the main factor that leads to my regrets. It’s the voice in my head that tries to keep me in my comfort zone. It shuns adventure. It cowers from conflict. But in retrospect, fear is always trivial. It’s only a hindrance in the present. In hindsight, the outcome I was afraid of would never happen. If I can push my perspective past now, fear loses its power over my present.

At the end of the year, what would you regret not doing? Is it the business you should’ve started? The girl you should’ve asked out? (Or the guy you should’ve given a chance?) The time you should’ve spent with friends? Family you should’ve visited? The job opportunity you should’ve explored?

I know the pain of regret from all those scenarios because I let them pass last year (and probably did the same on some of them the year prior). The “should-haves” suck in the end… much worse than the “shouldn’t-haves.”

But this year can be different. You and I can encounter adventure, opportunity, and conflict, and embrace it. We can exchange busyness for productivity. We can prioritize people over projects. Relationships over reality TV. We can filter life through the lens of a new perspective. One where we look at life in foresight. Living with no regrets.

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